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Nobody goes on dates anymore. When’s the last time a gentleman came to your doorstep to meet your parents before taking you to a nice restaurant for dinner? When has society changed the meaning of “date” to “I’ll text you when I pull up and we can hangout?”


The sad reality is that young ladies have accepted the bare minimum, and when a guy treats us respectfully like they should, we swoon. Opening a car door for a woman? Pulling out a chair for her? Bringing flowers as a token of affection to a date? Never experienced that, and any guy that did that for me would win my heart immediately. This new generation views chivalry as outdated, and when a guy does something kind for a lady, the guy expects something in return. Ultimately, men just want sex. Yes, this is a harsh generalization, but we’re growing up in a hookup culture; it’s all about treating a woman well to get in her pants, not out of the kindness of your heart.





What bothers me most is, why would you take a beautiful young lady on a date in hopes of getting intimate with her, rather than simply wanting to get to know her while sharing a nice meal?





One could argue that with masculine and feminine equality on the rise, women need to open their own car doors and split the dinner check, rather than relying on the guy to take care of them. What guys don’t understand is it’s not about equality on a date, it’s about making the lady feel special.





What ever happened to traditional dating? In the 1980’s, girls would wait by their rotary phone for their crush to call, and they’d make specific plans for later that week. Nowadays it’s a text saying “You free Friday? We should hangout.” Although there’s nothing necessarily wrong with that, I personally would like to do something more thoughtful than just “hangout,” it makes me feel important when a guy makes creative plans and thinks of a cute date idea to impress me.





Society fears labels, people fear commitment. “Dating” someone means being their boyfriend or girlfriend, and exclusively with them. “Talking to someone” means you’re unsure if they’re worth it in the long run, and you could also be ‘“talking” to other people too.





So ladies, stop accepting the bare minimum and start setting higher standards. Men with good intentions do exist, just keep looking for him. Men, please start taking a girl out purely just to treat her nicely as she deserves. Chances are, you’ll get a second date out of it too.





February 7th, 2018
By :
Autumn Audrey

Sources
Picciuto, John. “Why Chivalry Is Dead, From A Man's Perspective.” Elite Daily, 21 Aug. 2013, www.elitedaily.com/dating/sex/why-chivalry-is-dead-from-a-mans-perspective.
Stiles, Maureen. “Teen Dating: 1980 vs. 2016.” Scary Mommy, 13 May 2016, www.scarymommy.com/teen-dating-1980-vs-2015/.

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